I’ve always been a nice person – polite, pleasant, willing to help others out, listen and show interest, even if I don’t have the time. Though recently some people have seen this as a sign of weakness. I’ve had to justify my actions or decisions too often, especially when they didn’t fall in line with others desires.
People also forget their manners, what happened to ‘please’ or ‘sorry’? I’m sure those words are not used as much these days. Even the simple acts of conversation seem to be vanishing. Less people say ‘good morning’ or ‘hello’.
There is a trend in people now being more bullish, selfish and vain. Putting their needs and views above others. Compromise? What is that? I hate excuses for poor behaviour, such as circumstances and the urgency. Some others are allowing the economic climate to influence their manners and actions.
Well after a few issues recently where people have trodden over me, I’ve decided enough is enough. I walked away from a business client who didn’t pay me on time for a year, and gave me hassle when chasing for payment. I’ve taken a major action in my personal life, which I can’t share here. On the minor issues I’ve even unfollowed people on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter both business and personal connections. My actions won’t stop there, but also there is going to be a general change in my attitude towards others.
From work to personal communication, little or large issues, I’m going to change how I react. I’ve always treated people as I like to be treated, but I realise that just isn’t possible now. For my well-being (hence why I’m writing this blog post here), I’m going to take a firmer line.
If someone asks me for something, but in the wrong way or without consideration of my views or requirements, then I won’t bother and I won’t justify why. Enough of the justifying! If a person doesn’t say thank you, they will find I don’t bother with them from now on. If someone doesn’t say sorry or includes a ‘but’, after the sorry, they will find I won’t bother with them again either. If someone doesn’t say ‘please’, then they won’t get my help and I don’t care if they are a client.
There are a few people who I will give second chances, but whether a colleague, family or friend, I’m not going to put up with nonsense.
This isn’t the start of me being a mean chap or unapproachable. It is me gaining more self respect and dealing with less hassle.
Are you fed up with people taking advantage or being rude? Share your thoughts on this and how it impacts your well-being in the comments.
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